There is an old Chinese Proverb which says,
“The great question is not whether you have failed, but whether you are content with failure”.
When you live your life, take that quotation into account. Ask yourself the following question: Is failing or the lack of action due to the fear of failing holding you back?
I’ve learned a lot of hard lessons in life from many different people, but the most precious lessons I have learned have come from trying and failing. It made me who I am. It made me realize that failing is not an option. It taught me how to get up and get back in the ring with life when things don’t go your way. Now, I’m going to share a few personal experiences and life lessons.
First lesson: Fuck what people say who are against you.
Scared people tend to look at you through the prism of their lives. Since they were too afraid to step out on a limb and put it all on the line, they think that the safe route is also what is best for you. Sure, they mean well, but they will hold you back. Their mentality is not traction building. It’s stagnate and will leave you in the same place; unable to grow. Because things didn’t go the way they planned, they don’t want you to go down the same path. In their eyes, they are shielding you from the inevitable hurt. The only problem with that line of thinking is you’ll never know what lies down the path if you never take it. It could be a pot of gold waiting for you. Now the question is can you live with the regrets? Are you really going to let someone else dictate your life?
First Lesson, Part B: People really are haters.
For whatever reason, some people will not want you to shine. This could be a mate who thinks you might outgrow them and leave. It could be a ‘friend’ who wants the same spot you’re aiming for. Or it could be someone who will steal your work and present it as their own to climb the ladder. Be on the lookout for these people. You know what will kill these people? Your success. It will burn them to their rotten soul.
I know you don’t really care about my accomplishments, and I know I’m not famous, so let me give you examples of a few people who have failed before they succeeded:
- Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team.
- Oprah Winfrey was fired from her first TV job as an anchor.
- Walt Disney was told by a newspaper editor whom he worked for that he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas”. This is the man who made the mouse.
- Jerry Seinfeld was booed after he froze on stage during his first time doing live stand-up.
- Stephen King had “Carrie” rejected 30 times.
You want to wallow in your own self-pity, but how far will that get you?
Second lesson: Take off the dark shades and the rose colored glasses.
They skew your vision, and in this life, you need to be able to see perfectly clear. You need to see the reality of the situation you are getting yourself into. Read you contracts. Don’t trust anyone else with your money. You made it, so you count it. There are snakes and money-sucking leeches behind every corner, so be prepared to stomp on them. Life isn’t all roses and cotton candy. Prepare yourself for the battles ahead.
Third lesson: Believe in yourself, especially when nobody else does.
Don’t listen to the outside noise. Those people who say “you can’t”. Fuck them. Unfortunately, sometimes, this is the mindset you have to take in order to succeed. Sometimes it’s the closest ones to you who will do the most damage. Do not let them or anyone else deter you from your dreams.
You have to be your biggest supporter, promoter, believer, cheerleader, business manager, etc. How can you run your business if you don’t believe it will succeed? How can you shop your idea or make your pitch if you don’t believe in it? They (all of the theys) will smell the doubt, the unbelief. You have to bathe in confidence. Now, I’m not saying be an asshole or go full Kanye (who’s a genius, by the way) about it, but nobody can want for you what you want for yourself more than you do.