What thoughts cross your mind when you think about the person you want to potentially spend the rest of your life with? What will they be like? Will they be able to handle you at your best and worst times? What exactly is it you that want from them? All of these things are factors when you’re choosing a significant other.
Some people search for a perfect love story.
They meet, fall in love, and the rest is history. This is not quite the case. It’s not always love at first sight, and the honeymoon stage doesn’t last throughout the relationship. It’s work. That’s why choosing the right person to work beside is important. When it comes to a significant other what’s their purpose? Some people are able to accomplish a lot on their own. They feel as though their life is aligned to where they can be independent and it suits them best. As a result, they don’t feel like they need a significant other. To those who are in search of a significant other or are currently dealing with one, let me break down the purpose of a significant other.
A significant other is someone who you can count on, trust, and most importantly, feel comfortable with. Even though it seems simple, it’s not always easy to come across. Your significant other should be someone you can build a future with. The two of you should find a common ground, start a foundation, and work from there. Don’t be discreet, rather be detailed and assertive. Have a plan for what you are both trying to be accomplish.
A common problem is that people are unsure about what the “relationship” is or where it’s headed.
There should be no uncertainty. The person you are making plans with should be someone you can trust. You shouldn’t feel doubtful or ever have to question their loyalty. Be cautious of red flags and accept the warnings. You should be working with someone who is willing to give you their 100% while you return the same effort. This person supports your dreams and encourages you to achieve them. That person should help you reach goals, motivate you, and contrast your weaknesses. That person should be supportive emotionally, as well. When times get tough, they’ll be beside you and won’t give up on you. It’s easier to quit than endure hard times and prevail. Your partner’s character is going to be displayed throughout the relationship. Avoid someone who is dependent on you for whatever reason. You want someone who is independently dependent. If anything were to happen to either one of you, you would still be well off. A significant other is a person who is going to be a great influence in your life. Understand that you’ll learn from them, adopt new habits, and your perspective may change on certain subjects. You’ll be sharing a life with someone, and this will lead to two perspectives becoming one. Decisions will be made jointly as life goes on together.
Brian Weiss believed,
“Every individual soul chooses the significant people in that life. Destiny will place you in the particular circumstance; it will dictate that you will encounter a particular person, at a certain time, place.”
Significant times call for significant people.
After talking to few married couples who have been married for over 20 years, they discussed that the most important factor in having a significant is becoming one. Two hearts, two minds, and two lives that merge as one. They simply share life together. There are some highlights in life where you just need 2 people. One couple stressed that tough times tested their relationship. It was stated,
“We valued the hard times more. It’s a reality. You really learn a lot about the person you love during those times.”
Relationships have to stand the test of time. It’s not always a honeymoon stage, and it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. Sometimes you have to endure rocky storms and it’ll require two people to steer the ship. They mentioned that if they had to do it all over again, they would, and they would probably be better at it since they know their significant other much better over time. The chemistry they share together today is simply unmatched.
When it comes to a significant other, don’t mistake comfortableness for love.
Don’t get comfortable with being mistreated. Don’t be misinformed by the years put in. Don’t feel like there is no other way. Trust your instincts about the person and the circumstances. Don’t lower your standards while searching for someone or dealing with someone. You don’t remove people from your life, your standards will take care of that for you. If someone can’t reach your standards; for example if they can’t be honest, then they’ll remove themselves from your life. It’s not you, it’s your standards.
There is always something to be gained, there are always lessons to be learned. Remember that love is security, trust, and support. Your significant other shouldn’t make you feel anything less. They should make you feel secure, be trust worthy, and be the person you can count on no matter what.
The purpose of a significant other is committing to someone for all the right reasons.
You have to question; yourself or your significant other. It’s the mirror effect; everything you would want your significant other to be is exactly how you should be. Truly understand the direction of the relationship together. Whether you have been dealing with someone or are in search for a better half, make sure the relationship is a relationship for all the right reasons.