You are who you surround yourself with! Your team is a direct reflection of who you are. I don’t know if I can say it any clearer.
Ask yourself, in the history of life, how many people have been brought down by the people around them? You have to know the role of your team, whether they are friends, family, business associates, employees, or whomever. You are in the business of you. Always remember that. Your kids don’t eat unless you feed them. Once you come of age, (and unfortunately, for some, before you come of age) you don’t eat unless you feed yourself.
If you want to be successful, you have to surround yourself with people who want you to be successful.
If you want to be a businessman, you study business. If you want to be an athlete, you work trying to improve your specific disciplines; you run, you hit, you throw, or whatever it is you need to improve upon, you do. If you want to be a doctor, a lawyer, a psychologist, you have to put the time in the classroom, then you have to get real life experience. Anyone who stops you from doing that is against you succeeding in life. My dad would always say,
“if you want to be a bum in life, hang with bums—but if you want to be successful, hang with people who possess ambition and who are putting in the time to work to fulfill their dreams.”
Listen, it’s not who you are or even who you strive to be. It’s in the actions. If you’re a nobody to the world, and your team is a bunch of unheard of nobodies, but all of your team wants to change that and is working to change that, then your team is solid. Don’t worry, we all have to start from somewhere, and unless you were born with a silver spoon, we all had to start with nothing. If you all are working towards a common goal, then your team is solid. However, if most of you are putting in the hours and work, except one of you is out partying, sleeping in, and getting high all the time, then he is dragging you down. Your team will suffer. Fairly or unfairly their activities will be put on you. Your functionality, and ultimately, your results will suffer. Sometime clichés ring true – your team is only as strong as its weakest link. I hope that weak link is not you.
If you want to be successful you have to surround yourself with people who make moves for you to be successful.
Hopes and prayers without actions are just words. Yes, men and coattail-riders are not going to challenge you and push you further up the ladder of success. Whatever word you want to use—hustle, grind, work, time, effort—if every member of your team isn’t working hard, then what are they doing? If they are not playing their part, what are they doing? If they don’t know what the goal is, why are they there?
Young Queen, you may not be a whore, but if you hang with whores what do you think everyone thinks you are? Young soldier, you may not be on your way to the bottom, but if you roll with those who don’t care, don’t have any ambition, and don’t want a future, where do you think you’ll end up? The bad rubs off just as the good does. When the police come, they lock everybody up and sort it out later. Life does the same thing. Your team shouldn’t put you in situations where you’re going to need to get bailed out, figuratively and literally.
Your team has to have your back.
Do you know why thieves end up in jail? Because someone always tells. The weak link succumbs to the pressure. Do you know why successful people become failures? Because someone gets jealous. Because the team fractures. Do you know whose name gets plastered on the news when something bad happens? Not the person that did it, but the most famous person in their family, in their circle, in their team.
You are who you surround yourself with. Your team is a reflection of you and vice versa. It’s up to you who you put on it.