My whole life I’ve struggled trying to find who I am. I guess not having the right guidance at home didn’t really help. But traveling has allowed to dig into a different realm that has essentially helped me find my identity. It’s important for a person to find who they are because this allows an individual to find his/her own path. The clarity allows for a person to follow their own heart without the opinions of others. Our identity makes us who we are and without it we’re nothing.
Coming out of a broken home the odds are stacked against us. We have no proper guidance and no mental instability. We struggle finding who we are because of the imbalance in our home. A child needs both parents to fully develop a healthy conscious mind, so when you deprive a child of that they have a hard time finding their place in the world. I went through this and it wasn’t until I was 23 years old that I finally found my own path. And it wasn’t until I turned 24 that I found my identity. My whole life I followed everyone else, other people’s opinion mattered more than my own. It’s as if I couldn’t think for myself, so I needed the approval of others. All this came from not having a healthy environment as a child that didn’t allow me to develop my own identity. The thing with a two parent home is that each parent plays a different role in the maturation of a child. A mother nurtures, a father provides security, and without the proper balance a child struggles in his/her own decision making.
But somehow I found my identity.
It wasn’t until I began traveling outside of my own environment that I started to become exposed to the different cultures that surround our globe. Last year when I moved to Cleveland to write my first book was the first time I began to experience this change. And then again when I traveled to Montreal for a month my whole perception started to shift. Seeing these different ways of life and actually live within the culture makes you take a step back and analyze who you are. You seek answers about your own roots and you begin to understand how the principals of family values really affect who we are as people. I’ve seen San Diego, New York, Toronto, Montreal, Miami, Chicago etc and each destination has a different personality that changes your own perception of the world. That’s how I’ve managed to find my own identity.
Regardless if you have the opportunity to travel or not I cant stress enough how important it is to learn about different cultures outside of your own environment. This gives you the opportunity to broaden your own horizons and most importantly question things that you normally wouldn’t, so that it helps you find who you are and what your place in the world is. Before college 5 years ago, all I knew was Alief (where I’m from) and everything outside of it seemed so foreign. Even as a kid I always questioned what was past the fence, but my environment never allowed me to search for the answers.
Luckily I found my place in the world and most importantly I found my identity. But only because I questioned the things I didn’t understand and sought for the answers outside of my own environment. It’s not easy and society will devour your individuality, but you have to continue to fight for your own identity. You have to fight for your own answers. Whatever kind of home you grow up in you can manage to find your true self. If I did it, then so can you. Whatever messed up situation you’re currently in, you can find who you are, but you have to want it more than anyone. Ask the right questions and your answers will present themselves.